One day all people meet someone special and think that it’s that particular person with whom they want spend the rest of their life. Unfortunately, very often we can’t recognize true love and may confuse it with something else.
Sometimes people don’t understand the difference between love and need. Actually it’s not that easy to do but it’s very important to learn to see this difference since this is the only way we will find out if this person is worthy of being with us and if we are worthy of our partner.
Today we have some important information for you. Here are 6 differences between being “in love” and being “in need”. They will help you to recognize true love and be happy with your loved one.
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#1. Focusing on what you’re getting
When people need instead of loving, they usually pay special attention to what their partner does for them. These can be mental, emotional, physical and other benefits. If they don’t get what they want, quarrels usually occur.
Of course, everybody wants something in a relationship but there should be balance. Both partners should make equal efforts to maintain the relationship and both of them should do their best to fulfil the need of their soulmate.
The difference is that when your partner loves you they will be able to continue in a strong and happy relationship if you don’t manage to give them what they need but if they remind you of your mistakes all the time, then it’s not love.
#2. Blaming your partner for your troubles
There are cases when people who have troubles or problems blame their partners for them. They claim that their “loved ones” are guilty of their miseries. This is not love for sure.
There can’t be blame in true love. Of course sometimes your soulmate can do something which will cause trouble then you two should just talk about it but in the majority of cases all the problems and negative emotions we have don’t occur because of our partner. We should learn to understand the situation and stop blaming them for all our problems and failures.
#3. Being dependent on their presence
Of course, it’s normal for it to be hard for you to be apart from your partner but if you just can’t stand the absence of them and don’t understand that they also have a right to private space, work and other things, which they can do without you, than it’s need.
You should learn to respect and understand your partner’s right to be absent. You should learn to be on your own when he is not with you. Just read a book, go to the movies with your friends or go shopping with your mom. Fill your free time with things which you like to do.
One of the main signs of people “in need” is control. When we make another person act and live like we want them to, then it’s not love. We just want to be with a person whom we have created in our head.
We have to accept our partners the way they are and respect their right to their point of view, desires and plans for life. We can’t change people, we can just accept and understand them.
#5. Feeling empty without them
As a rule it’s very hard for people to be without their partners but there is a very thin line between “missing” someone and “feeling empty” without them. It’s similar to being a drug addict. We can’t lead a normal life when our partners are absent and we can’t be happy without them. If we really love someone we can still be complete without them.
#6. Your happiness comes first
When we need another person, instead of loving them, all we care about is our own happiness but we don’t think that our partners should be happy, too. It means that we are selfish, and selfishness always leads to problems and quarrels.
When people really love someone they will always do their best to provide their loved ones with happiness. Of course, we should also take care of our own desires and dreams, so we should find a balance.
We at BetterMe want everyone to know and experience true love. It is out there for everyone and until it knocks on your door we are here to remind you that you deserve the best love!
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